My New Found Princess

Every equestrian has their preference of horses including breeds, colors, markings, size, and gender. Personally, I have always been a big, chestnut, thoroughbred gelding kind of person. The key word in that last sentence is gelding. Mares and I have never gotten along well. Mainly because I was never a fan of the whole bouncy, feisty, mare-ish attitudes.


Her name is Tango. She is a bay, mustang pony. I first rode her about a year ago in the spring semester of my sophomore year, and we did not get along in the least bit. She was fast and feisty and we did not communicate at all. In my opinion, communication is the most important aspect of riding horses. Contrary to popular belief, it is a team effort, between the horse and the rider. Without communication, the team will inevitably fail.

Approximately six months ago, in the fall semester of my junior year, I started riding Tango again. Obviously I was hesitant at first since I was not really a fan of hers. One day, after riding her quite often, we clicked and I fell in love. Now we work extremely well together and I look forward to every minute I get to spend with her.

Unfortunately the origin of the word “tango” has been lost in history. Although the origin is unknown, “The Tango” is very well known. The tango is a partner dance, meaning it involves teamwork and communication. I love Tango’s name for this reason and also because it describes our relationship.  Our relationship was horrible at first because we did not tango together. After working at it, from both ends, we work much better as a team.

So why am I randomly writing about this random pony at my college’s barn? I have been missing Tango recently (…yes I am that person). I was finally able to ride her today for the first time in too long. She was so feisty the whole lesson and I realized something. I love when she is feisty! I smile constantly when she is that mood because it is just so damn cute. In the past, I would have hated that mood! So the real lesson I received today is that I have truly grown as a rider, but also as a person.

After our spunky lesson together, I spent almost two hours brushing Tango’s beautiful, thick tail and cuddling her up. Today I tweeted, “If you have never kissed a horse on the nose, you haven’t lived” and I will stand by that statement no matter what. Being in the presence of a horse that is special to you, kissing their nose and talking to them, is all you need to make you glow.

It was a perfect day with my new found princess.

Dear Thirteen Year-Old Self


Dear thirteen year-old self,

There are so many things that I have learned over the past eight years (ew that sounds weird…) that I would tell you if I could. I would tell you not to become friends with a certain person or don’t talk to a certain boy or don’t forget to do that huge assignment or a number of other things. I am going to spare you those details and just tell you about some of the basics.


Friends are going to come and go. It is okay. People change and you will too.

Be nice to everyone you meet and learn from them. Every single person you meet will have a different story to tell, and it is amazing to listen to them all.

The world is going to hand you many hardships. Don’t blame yourself or the world. Life is tough sometimes, but you are tougher.

Control your anger. Take responsibility for your actions and don’t blame yourself when it isn’t your responsibility.

Listen to your father. You will realize one day that he is the most amazing man in your life and he was right about basically everything. When that happens, he will become your role model and bestfriend.

Your step-family loves you. They are going to become extremely important to you in your future. Stop fighting them.

When somebody asks you to smoke a cigarette with them, don’t do it. You will smack yourself later while trying to figure out why you started smoking in the first place.

Instead of doing drugs, go to the gym, ride your bike, or go hangout at the barn. Use all of that energy you have for healthy things because one day, you will want it back.

Alcohol is alcohol. You will have plenty of time to be stupid and drunk, don’t do it now.

Trust people. This is always going to be a very foreign thing for you, but you will meet a few people along the way who you can truly believe. These people will fill your heart and change your mentality.

Enjoy your silly, simple, pointless relationships. Although you will learn that being alone is okay, relationships seem to get more and more difficult.

Keep swimming, it is good for you. Although it allows more time for sleep, you will regret quitting half way through high school.

At this point, horses are fun to you. In a few years they are going to save you. After this, you will realize the importance of horses in your life. Talk to them, learn from them.

That english class you hate attending, attend it. Try to learn from it because one day, you might actually enjoy writing.

Believe it or not, one day you will love school. You will appreciate all of the new information you can learn if you just take the time to learn it. You are going to become so engulfed in all of the amazing things around you, which is going to make it nearly impossible to decide what to do with your life. Ignore that, take it all in.

Stop trying to grow up so fast! You will have plenty of time to be a grown up and guess what, it blows. 

Most importantly, you DO NOT know everything. You are not the best friend or girlfriend, you are not the smartest person in the world, you are not fooling everyone with your bullshit, and you have no idea what you are going to do for the rest of your life. This is not the end of the world. You are going to find out that being wrong is okay, and actually, you are going to get a lot of practice at it!



Your twenty-one year-old self

Woman are Like Tea Bags

Recently I heard a quote in a movie and it stuck in my head. “Women are like tea bags. You never know how strong they are until you put them in hot water.” Two things sparked my interest. The first thing was comparing woman to tea bags. Tea is such an elegant drink that has so many variations, some very similar and some completely unalike. It can be dark or light, sweet or bitter, hot or cold, strong or weak, and any mix of thesetea. Sitting down with a nice cup of tea is always so relaxing, you can easily get lost. For some reason, it puts you in a state of mind that everything is going to be okay even if it is just for those few moments. I think overall, that fits woman very well. The second thing I liked about this quote was the appreciation of a woman’s strength. Women are commonly undermined as a gender. For many reasons, you many never see the strength that a woman has, but give a woman any difficult situation, and the inner strength prevails. Now more than ever, woman are unleashing what they are made of and it is beautiful. As a woman, I get very offended when somebody, male or female, makes a sexist comment. I am usually then asked, “why does that offend you?” which makes me want to ramble on for hours to “prove” my disgust. Simplest answer: I am too damn proud to let anybody undermine me because I do not have a penis. There, I said it. Sexism, like any other stereotyping, makes an individual look extremely uneducated (in my opinion). Honestly, it pisses me off to know that somebody can think so simple-mindedly. But I am learning to channel that anger into motivation because I want nothing more than to be an extremely successful and happy person (not woman…). I hope to be able to empower woman to let the world see their inner strength. Because at the end of the day, we are more than a cup of tea.